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The “I Do” Crew: do you need to invite plus ones to your wedding?

We ask the I Do Crew whether they invited plus ones to their wedding.

Meet the “I Do” Crew

Each month we’re asking our ”I Do” Crew the questions every recently engaged couple is asking, from photography to guest lists our trio of recently or soon-to-be wedded bloggers share their insights into planning a wedding. So far, we’ve asked them to tell us the first decision they made after getting engaged, whether they had a ‘first look’, and how they chose their wedding venue.

This month we’re asking the crew whether they invited plus ones to their wedding.

A bride and groom pose with bridesmaids on the steps outside Leigh Court

Avenue White Photography

The recently married one: Married in August 2018, describes her wedding as ‘a perfect day better than I ever imagined.’

The groom: Married in July 2018, describes his wedding as ‘a chilled and fun day, with loads of our friends and family.’

The bride-to-be: Getting Married in September 2019, describes her upcoming wedding as ‘the day I marry my best friend surrounded by the people we love the most.’

A groom is giving a speech in a large yellow room at his Leigh Court wedding

Avenue White Photography

We ask the I Do Crew whether they invited plus ones to their wedding.

The recently married one

If we knew the guest’s plus one well, or if they’re married then yes. But if it was a couple who had recently gotten together who we didn’t know then we mostly asked them to come solo. We made an exception for family and people in the wedding party.

The groom

Good question, I would say mainly yes. I think we both felt that even though plus ones may add a few extra people they are special to the guests.

The bride-to-be

There are some plus ones coming but not everyone has one. We said that if we hadn’t met them or don’t intend to before our wedding, it didn’t feel right to have them take a place of someone we really wanted there.

The wedding coordinator

The I Do Crew have all made really good choices here. If a guest is married or engaged, etiquette demands you invite their partner to your wedding, and the same courtesy should be extended to people who are in long term relationships. If you’re feeling really guilty about limiting plus ones at the ceremony and wedding breakfast, you can always invite them to the evening party instead.

Next month, we ask the I Do Crew about their wedding cakes, as making your own cake becomes an increasingly popular choice.