The Best Advice for Newly-Engaged, from the Recently Married!

We ask the I Do Crew for their ultimate advice for anyone who’s getting married.

Meet the “I Do” Crew

Each month we’ve been asking our ”I Do” Crew the questions on every recently engaged persons mind, from choosing a wedding photographer to writing a guest list, our trio of recent or soon-to-be newly-weds have shared their insights into planning a wedding. Among the questions we’ve asked are how they chose their wedding venue, when to send wedding invitations, and how to write a wedding guest list.

This month we’re asking the I Do Crew for their best advice for brides and grooms-to-be.

A silhouette of a bride and groom dancing on the Great Hall balcony at Leigh Court

Avenue White Photography

The recently married one: Married in August 2018, describes her wedding as ‘a perfect day better than I ever imagined.’

The groom: Married in July 2018, describes his wedding as ‘a chilled and fun day, with loads of our friends and family.’

The bride-to-be (who is now a newly-wed!) Married in September 2019, describes her upcoming wedding as ‘the day I marry my best friend surrounded by the people we love the most.’


A bride is escorted down the staircase by her father at a wedding at Leigh Court

John Barwood Photography

We ask the I Do Crew for their ultimate advice for anyone who’s getting married:

The recently married one

Get the big things like the venue and catering out of the way first. Be prepared to spend hours shopping for things like dresses and shoes.

The groom

HAVE FUN! It is so easy to worry about tiny details that really don’t matter. Nobody goes to a wedding to judge, just to celebrate two people in love. These tiny details that cause many planning meetings really mean nothing. Spend time dating before you get married. Get mentally prepared to be with each other for the rest of your life, because as soon as the day is over, it’s just back to the two of you. As long as your guests have enough food and drink, they won’t be worrying about anything else!

The bride-to-be (who is now a newly-wed!)

Enjoy yourselves, and decide early on that if something is going to cause more stress to organise in the run up to the wedding than pleasure on the day, then it’s not worth doing!

The wedding coordinator

Make sure you get the big decisions out of the way first, decide what’s really important and focus on getting those bits right, and don’t sweat the small stuff. Finally, if things don’t go quite according to plan on the day, just embrace it! Sometimes these moments will become your favourite memories.